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3 Tips for Choosing the Right Divorce Lawyer

Consulting a divorce lawyer
When is the best time to hire a divorce lawyer? The answer to that question is easy. It's best to consult an attorney as soon as you first consider separating from your spouse. Having the right guidance and advice can make the process less stressful and frustrating, and it can ultimately lead to the results you want and need. Consider these tips for choosing the right divorce attorney.

1. Be Realistic About Your Expectations

No divorce lawyer can work miracles and promise that everything will go your way. If you are looking for a divorce attorney who can guarantee the outcomes you want, then you'll be disappointed. An ethical divorce attorney will never make absolute promises on custody or alimony because there is no way to predict outcomes in court.

Also, don't choose a divorce attorney based on which one seems most sympathetic to your plight. When you're trying to choose a divorce attorney, make the decision based solely on how well you think the lawyer will represent your best interests.

2. Know What You Need in the Divorce

Before you talk to divorce lawyers, think about what your overall needs and goals are in the divorce. Perhaps you want full custody of your children and need to ensure that you can adequately provide for them with a fair settlement. Make a list of your priorities and use them to decide what your ideal outcome of the divorce will be.

Before you talk to divorce lawyers, be sure that you can engage in conversations about what you want to achieve in the divorce. If a lawyer insists on mediation when you know that you won't be able to amicably settle things with your ex, then that can be an indication you two won't work well together. Knowing what you want helps you identify which lawyer will work well with you.

3. Ask Lots of Question in the Initial Consultation

Use your priorities and goals to form questions to ask a potential divorce lawyer in your initial consultation. Don't go into that initial consultation and just wing it. You'll get the most out of the meeting and be empowered to decide if the lawyer is the right fit for your needs when you put time and thought into asking questions you need to be answered.

Some questions you may want to ask include:
  • How long have you specialized in divorce, and how many cases have you been involved in?
  • How is communication handled when there are everyday concerns about the case?
  • Who else will be working on the divorce case?
  • What is your fee structure? How will charges be determined? How will payments work?
  • Do you think mediation may be best in my specific case? Do you prefer to litigate instead?
  • Do you have an estimate of the total cost of the case?
  • What are some things that should and shouldn't be done moving forward?
  • What can be done to make your job easier?
  • Although you may not be able to make any real predictions, how do you see this divorce going?
The questions you want to ask may vary, but these questions are a good starting place and can help you think of other things you want to know about. The more detailed and specific questions you have prepared, the better you can determine whether you and the attorney will work well together.

Contact Peter S. Aex Attorney at Law with any questions or concerns you have about your divorce. Our caring team has more than 35 years of experience in family law, and we're available to help you every step of the way during your divorce. Reach out to us today to learn more.